Sunday, February 1, 2004

Tossing in my hat...

As the weeks after my separation and divorce went by I found myself becoming braver and more confident.  There was so much to learn about being single.  It took some time but I discovered that it wasn't ... fatal.  That might sound funny, but after being married for 28 years, the thought of being middle-aged and single was terrifying to me.  At the time of my divorce the youngest of my 3 children was 19 years old, but all of them were still living at home.  Since we had to sell the house the kids decided that they would all rent a townhouse together.  If I were keeping a running tally I'd say that at that point I had lost my husband and marriage, my house, my car, and now all 3 of my children at the same time.  I remember my best girlfriend saying, "Don't worry.  It can't get any worse!"  A week later I lost my job.  She never said that again!  And I hadn't even gone through the breast biopsy or the pacemaker insertion yet.  Good thing I have such a good sense of humor.  Once when my ex-husband was visiting me in the hospital he said, "I think I got rid of you just in time!"  We both laughed.  It was true.  If it weren’t for the divorce I never would have met Ray.  But the road to meeting him was like a roller coaster; lots of twists and turns, frightening, unexpected plunges and ... I screamed a lot.  My kids, my friends and my co-workers helped me get through it all.  I started writing a Web Page about my misadventures being a DWF in New Jersey and my quest to find true love and happiness.  (I can’t wait to read the ending to see how it all turned out.)  In all honesty I have to say that most of my experience as a divorced woman came from … Chat Rooms. 

5 comments:

readmereadyou said...

It was tough, Lisa, but it all turned out okay. God was with you. He wouldn't let go of a special one like you. : )

bridgetteleigh75 said...

Looking back...I bet it's easy to reflect on how far you've come. Those first few months were probably absolutely horrible. I feel for you, I really do. But you made it...and you have a wonderful S.O. to stand by your side too! Good for you, Lisa!

Love,
bridgett

redhdka said...

Most of my experiences as a married women came from chat rooms. LOLOLOL

redhdka said...

I'm so glad you are all better now! Thank God!

somenuttychic said...

Even though it must have hurt at the time, at least your kids *moved out*. Better than having them be over the age of 30 and still still living at home. :-)