As the weeks after my separation and divorce went by I found myself becoming braver and more confident. There was so much to learn about being single. It took some time but I discovered that it wasn't ... fatal. That might sound funny, but after being married for 28 years, the thought of being middle-aged and single was terrifying to me. At the time of my divorce the youngest of my 3 children was 19 years old, but all of them were still living at home. Since we had to sell the house the kids decided that they would all rent a townhouse together. If I were keeping a running tally I'd say that at that point I had lost my husband and marriage, my house, my car, and now all 3 of my children at the same time. I remember my best girlfriend saying, "Don't worry. It can't get any worse!" A week later I lost my job. She never said that again! And I hadn't even gone through the breast biopsy or the pacemaker insertion yet. Good thing I have such a good sense of humor. Once when my ex-husband was visiting me in the hospital he said, "I think I got rid of you just in time!" We both laughed. It was true. If it werent for the divorce I never would have met Ray. But the road to meeting him was like a roller coaster; lots of twists and turns, frightening, unexpected plunges and ... I screamed a lot. My kids, my friends and my co-workers helped me get through it all. I started writing a Web Page about my misadventures being a DWF in New Jersey and my quest to find true love and happiness. (I cant wait to read the ending to see how it all turned out.) In all honesty I have to say that most of my experience as a divorced woman came from Chat Rooms.